Full disclosure, my daughter is due to arrive in a few weeks. And the thought of her being born into a country where we justify trivializing the abuse of women as “locker room” talk sickens me. Maybe I’m a bit on edge when it comes to the topic of objectifying women. Maybe I’m being a bit extreme here. Maybe I’m not thinking this entirely through.
But, apparently, it’s okay to spout off in America without thinking things through. In fact, it seems like it’ll actually get you a ticket to the White House. So, that’s cool?
Perhaps you haven’t heard about Mr. Trumps lewd comments. Perhaps you’ve already buried your head in the sand because this election more closely resembles The Real World: Road Rules than it does a system to elect a President to the highest office in the free world. I get it.
In fact, the only good thing I found during the debate last night was my spirit animal. Here he is:
Back to the topic at hand. Trump apologized for the comments he made (which were in 2005. He claims he’s a changed man. Since I only know his public persona, I cannot declare whether or not that’s a true statement.) but he also tried to lessen the blow by claiming they were made during locker room talk.
America, we have to be better than this. Like, how are we not better than this? This isn’t a push for you to vote for Hillary Clinton. (She’s one of the other dancing monkeys in this circus.) This isn’t a push for you to vote third-party. (I’m not convinced the third-party candidate could even find the White House without a GPS.) This is just a guy pleading with you not to justify locker room talk in any context.
A man bragging about forcing himself onto a woman is immoral and wrong.
A man talking about a woman as if she is only the sum total of her body parts and dimensions is disgusting.
Let’s not justify his words because many other people, probably even some people in higher office, have said words like them. Let’s not excuse them as being okay because they weren’t said on a stage. They were wrong. That’s it.
I don’t know what, if any, influence his comments should have on how you vote. That’s on you. If you still choose to vote for him, I’m not going to call you a monster. If you vote for Hillary, I’m not going to call you an idiot. I’m just asking you to join me in not settling for less than we are capable of as people.
Let’s model for our children the value of human life by what we say and how we live.
Besides, locker rooms stink anyways.
soli deo gloria
Baby girl. If, by some random occurrence, many years from now, you find this blog in some archive somewhere, I want you to know something. There isn’t a locker room in the world where your daddy will be okay with you being objectified and mistreated. Don’t settle for a man who doesn’t speak as if you are a treasure.
Son, if you find this someday. Don’t allow men, who are not real men, to influence you to treat a woman like she is anything less than a treasure. We are all God’s creation and we all deserve to be treated as such.
I love you.